The Truth About Lube

Lube is not a luxury. It’s not like bubble bath, candles or toys. Lube is absolutely essential.

S LUBE KEEPS YOU HEALTHY

Lube is a skin protector. During sex play it cuts down on friction in ways our natural lubrication cannot. With out lube, that friction can cause microscopic burns that leave you more vulnerable to bacterial or viral infections. Using lube should be a part of every healthy person’s safer sex practices.

S MISCONCEPTIONS

1) The biggest lube misconception is that a healthy, naturally wet woman does not need lube. She may be very wet, but lube is still essential.

2) The second major lube misconception is that how wet a woman is displays how turned on she is. I always align this myth with the myth that “if a woman has erect nipples she sexually excited.” All women know that is not true! It could be cold out. Or she could have clothing that is rubbing against her chest. Erect nipples are no indicator of what is going on in her mind or anywhere else in her body. Just as wetness is no indicator of how turned in she may or may not be.

Some women are wet when she’s not sexually excited at all. Or she may be very sexually excited but relatively dry. She may be wetter when she is ovulating. Or less wet during or after menopause. She may simply be dehydrated or on one of the many medication that dries out her eyes, mouth and vagina; especially antihistamines.

S WHAT’S WRONG WITH USING KY?

KY Lubricant is the most widely purchased lubricant on the market, but only because it is the one that is readily available at even the most conservative pharmacies. The truth is that KY was developed for medical procedures like vaginal and anal exams. It was not designed for sex. It was designed for one-finger-in and one-finger out. It may help with inserting something internally but it is not designed for friction and repeated thrusting. It will not give our delicate skin the same sort of protection we get from a lubricant that is designed for sex play. KY dries up quickly, coagulates and becomes sticky. Try a quality sex lube and you will never go back.

S WHICH LUBE IS RIGHT FOR ME?

You’ll have to explore to find the right lube for you. Some people love the thickness of a water-based lube while others feel they are too sticky. One person will swear by silicone-based lubes while others feel they are too oily feeling and hard to clean up. 

Everyone is unique in what works for them. Lube is like any personal product. You may love Aveda Shampoo while you best friend prefers Suave. You may love Jergen’s Lotion but your sister breaks out with rash if she even smells it. Personal products come in great varieties because everyone has their own preferences. Lube is no different. And sometimes a person just gets bored of their brand and wants to try something new. Ask to see the whole variety I have on hand. I am happy to put a drop of each on your hand so you can explore them all!